Tag: coaching
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The Conversation You’re Having With Yourself
I wrote Make Them Think to help people show up better in the conversations they have with others. What I didn’t anticipate was how many readers would tell me it changed the conversation they’re having with themselves. In her Amazon review, a reader named Erin wrote: “I picked up Make Them Think to become a…
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The Patience Game
I wrote Make Them Think for leaders of all kinds whose job, by trade or by nature, is to help people learn, grow and change their lives for the better. What a lot of people don’t know about the book is that it was born out of a corporate training I used to give for…
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The Conversation Move that Gets People Unstuck Fast
A client once stopped me mid-session and asked: “What are you doing?” He’d noticed a pattern. Every time he brought me a problem, I wasn’t asking him to explain it further. I was asking him something else entirely. I told him: “Every time you talk in problem terms, I ask about the solution.” He looked…
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The 90/10 Rule: What great coaching actually sounds like
A few weeks ago I received this review from Rachel M., a Lead Counsel who read Make Them Think: “I’ve always been most impressed by leaders who ask thoughtful, well-timed questions that seem to change the direction of a project. This book helped me understand why those questions work and how to start using them…
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The Most Natural Question in the World (And Why it’s the Wrong One)
A reader named Layne, a CMO with 20+ years in startup tech, wrote something in her review that I keep coming back to: “I thought good coaching meant having better answers. This book showed me it means asking better questions.” That one sentence is the whole paradigm shift. Most of us were trained, implicitly or…
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Permission to Breathe
Why You Don’t Have to Have the Answer One of the first reviewers of my book said: “Advice often creates anxiety, not clarity. This book felt like permission to breathe.” Permission to breathe. I keep thinking about that phrase. Because most of us walk around carrying a quiet pressure to have the right answers. To…
