Tag: relationships
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The Real Reason People Change
People don’t change simply because we want them to. They change when they have a breakthrough in thinking for themselves. When people arrive at the solution themselves, they own it. And that ownership is what leads to action. That’s easy to forget because when someone is struggling, our instinct is to help. The problem is…
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The Banana Problem
Let’s do a quick exercise. I’ll say a word, and I want you to notice the first thing that comes to mind. Ready?… Banana. What did you think of? When I do this exercise in workshops, the answers are all over the place. Banana bread! Monkey! Potassium! And there is always one person who says…
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Why Good Conversations Go Sideways
Have you ever walked into a conversation with the best intentions, and it still went completely sideways? Maybe it was a one-on-one with a direct report. Maybe it was a conversation with your spouse. Maybe it was your child. You started calm. You wanted to help. Then they said something that rubbed you the wrong…
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Permission to Breathe
Why You Don’t Have to Have the Answer One of the first reviewers of my book said: “Advice often creates anxiety, not clarity. This book felt like permission to breathe.” Permission to breathe. I keep thinking about that phrase. Because most of us walk around carrying a quiet pressure to have the right answers. To…
